I-Female

I-Female is a magazine that helps inspire, motivate, and encourage every woman. They also aim to educate, empower and uplift women in many different areas such as entrepreneurial development. Furthermore, they bring awareness to domestic violence and depression and allow victims or survivors to look at themselves as strong women. Through the many pages of the magazine and also the website, I-Female hopes to become a voice for young girls, teens, and adult women.

With our discussion talking about how African Americans can develop a more progressive Black Sexual Politics, I feel that this was a good example. This magazine aspires to reconstruct the stigma’s that have been placed on single mothers, and also teach young people how to overcome trails in their life. From the magazine’s website, you can truly conclude that the purpose is to encourage, educate and motivate women. For example below is a youtube video educating viewers of 14 African American Women everyone should familiar with.

Also, the website provides a Quote of the Day. April 24: “Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.” Norman Vincent Peale

Killing me softly.

In class we discussed the objectification of black women’s bodies. That intrigued me to blog about this because it is too important and it is being allowed. Something needs to be done to correct.  Tanisha mentioned the vodka commercial and how they show the woman’s bod parts and then continue on to become a robot dancing. While it is a funny commercial on the surface; when you look into the deeper meaning you realize that there is an objectification of the woman’s body. I feel that this reason alone is why people feel the way they do about the woman’s body especially the black woman’s body. There is so much emphasis on the big butts and big boobs. I deal with it on a daily basis. I cannot help that I am heavy up top; that doesn’t give any man or woman the right to objectify my body and focus on my breast. I have noticed numerous times that men will just boldly stare at my breast it is embarrassing. It almost makes me want to walk around with turtle necks all the time. I could be in the middle of a conversation with a male or female and notice that they will be staring at my breast instead of focusing on what I am saying. The popular media is to blame for the way people act. With all these rappers and commercials focusing on the woman’s body instead of her personality is disrespectful. I guess the saying “sex sells” is the main focus of this campaign. The film Killing us Softly is the perfect resource to see all the sexual objectification of the woman’s body. I was outraged by the amount of media that partakes in the objectification of women’s bodies.

The worst part of this all is that women take part in the campaign against their own bodies. They capitalize on being “video vixens” and showing of their voluptuous body parts. The argument they have is why allow someone else to make the money off of their goods when they can capitalize and make the money themselves. Why that is a correct argument, I would encourage women to take a different approach find other ways to break the business of objectification of women. If all women came together and fight then it would end and we can change that way. Don’t play into the game and allow people to objectify the body.

 

 

Child Abuse Prevention Month

I wanted to bring attention to everyone that this month is child abuse prevention month. I feel that this is important for everyone to be involved in because the children are our future. Sometimes children can’t always use their voices so having support is what they need. Every 10 seconds a case of child abuse is reported adding up to 3 million cases every year. These numbers are outrageous and something needs to be done to help prevent this.

 The theme for 2012 is “Its no secret…everyone can help.” I hope that everyone can do what they can to help children that are victims of child abuse. Also to know that even if you aren’t the abuser, if you don’t speak up its just as bad.

Spread the word! We all can help! 🙂

The art of art

Art has always been subjective, meaning something different for which interpreter.Sometimes it is a protest against the ugliness the artist sees in the world that they feel is ignored, an ugly reality of life . the thin line between offending to make viewers aware, and the act of offending for shock value is an often contested one that is argued by art critics and artists alike.  Recently I came across two videos that I believe both cross the line to un-artistically obscene. the 1st is a music video glorifying the idea of Black women getting pregnant to be on welfare to absurd dimensions. The ‘artist’ claims that her work is in the air of humor, but seems to loathe her sex and race on some level as many of her other videos are in the same vein as the EBT for me song. The second video is perhaps more disturbing because it is at a Swedish culture minister participating in cutting up a cake of a African woman, vagina first. According to the artist this was to  protest female circumcision, however the execution of it all leaves many wondering if shock and not awareness was the true goal. Throughout the party, the artist was in black face screaming in agony. I didn’t enjoy watching either of these videos particularly, but they make me ask questions about art and free speech. Does controversy really raise awareness and it is the kind of awareness that invokes change, or are these just too sad example of Black people being mixed up?

 

 

Issue I’m dealing with…

What I’m starting to realize is that a lot of women and men do not actually know what rape is.  Just because he/she didn’t punch you in the face or kick you in the stomach doesn’t mean you weren’t raped.  Just because he/she didn’t threaten you with a weapon doesn’t mean you weren’t raped.  Just because you didn’t go to the police afterwards, or just because you never told anyone, doesn’t mean you weren’t raped.  And the biggest misconception of rape yet; just because you said yes at first doesn’t mean you weren’t raped.  Anytime the word “no” or “stop” comes into the picture of sexual intercourse that’s the period to the sentence, that’s the end, you’re suppose to stop.  If he or she is forcing you to do it and you have made it plain that you don’t want to, whether you fight him/her, or you’re too scared or ashamed to fight and you just wait for it to be over, that’s rape.  The issue of rape has been heavy on my heart because honestly I’m dealing with it myself.  It happened to me in August of 2009, and I just opened up to someone in November of 2011, and I just told my mom last week.  The whole reason I’ve kept this to myself this long is because at the time I didn’t consider it rape.  In my mind, yes I said no and I said I really don’ t want too, but at the same time at first I said yes, and I put myself in the situation.  Then afterwards it was the thoughts of having to explain what happened to my parents, the police, the fear of people in my city and community finding out, going to trial, and all this two weeks before I leave for college.  This past November I went to see the documentary in the union “It Was Rape” by Jennifer Baumgardner and I stayed for the discussion afterwards, and that is when I realized when I changed my mind and said no the next step should’ve been me walking away from the situation.  She said something toall of  us after the event that I will never forget, “Don’t ever blame yourself; I don’t care if you were butt naked in his bed and at first you wanted it when you decided never mind this isn’t what you want to do, he needs to get up”.  Its so true.  After this, I could finally admit it, but I’m not going to charge the guy or anything because I have let it go and I have already forgiven him, but I definitely want to help make this issue aware.  I have shared my story with a couple friends and it hurts that everyone I have shared it with has had similar experiences.  This issue is something that has been going on for so long and we got to take a stand for the next generation.

Do You Use the B-Word?

By: Kathleen J. King

As I peered through the window display of a book store, I noticed several books grouped together—all of the titles included the word “bitch.” It got me thinking about Women’s History Month. Should we rename it: Bitches’ History Month?

I had been hoping to find some more intelligent life in that window: perhaps books on the women’s history and civil rights movements, Seneca Falls, Bella Abzug, or Gloria Steinem?
Instead, I found:

• Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl—A Woman’s Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship

• Skinny Bitch

• I Bitch, Therefore I am

The notion that women and the editors who publish them are using the term nonstop to get a reaction from us readers—eh, potential buyers—truly bothers me. Is this the path to celebrating women—or reinforcing negative stereotypes?

Words can make us squirm. Some go to the extreme of asking us not to use a word. A Queens, New York, councilman recently proposed a symbolic ban on the N-word. It was later approved by the New York City Council, but that’s a whole other—and equally interesting—conversation that merits its own article.
But whether or not you agree with the use of the B-word, can’t we be more creative about what we call ourselves as women? Must we call ourselves the very stereotypes we’ve been fighting against since the beginning of time: gold diggers, hookers and whores? (The list is endless, but I won’t bore you here; as women, you know them all by now.)

When I look around me at role models and other women I admire—writers, artists, businesswomen, stay-at-home moms, leaders in my community, activists, politicians, environmentalists, scientists, CEOs, global leaders, and family members—I don’t see them using the word. I don’t hear or read about them referring to themselves and other women as “bitches.” Why? It’s undignified for one. And it doesn’t advance women necessarily.

Thinking about how we use words is exciting, thought provoking, and invites discussion. Perhaps that’s one of the reasons we do it. I’d love to hear what you think.

Jennifer Hudson Murder Trial

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The trial for the slaying of Jennifer Hudson's family has began. This was such a tradgedy as Hudson recieved her awards for "Dreamgirls" and her fame was becoming very real. I could not imagine this happening to my family. When the media first heard of the murders, the coverage focused on stereotypes and assumptions. This clouded all viewer's perceptions of who and what was really involved. Almost immediately it was assumed that the incident was drug related and cast a negative affect on Hudson's family. The killer, Hudson's sisters' boyfriend, threatened to murder the family over two dozen times. This goes to show that it was "normal behavior" for her to be treated this way by her boyfriend.

Is Marriage dead???

Is marriage dead? I feel as though that marriage isnt as valued as it was in the past. Marriage is suppose to be a Sacred bond between two individuals who love one another but in today’s society it taken for granted. When women or men marry someone else because of their money, or for other reasons outside of love. With the portrayal of marriage in the media, how could it be viewed as sacred? With shows such as Real Housewives of Atlanta where I believe only 2 out of them are actually married. Shows such as Basketball wives, Hip Hop wives where a lot of these women arent even married. Then shows like the flavor of love, and I love new york that doesnt give off the best presentation of african american relationships. Shows such as who wants to marry a millionaire, the bachelor, the bachelorette, and who wants to marry a midget are taken as a joke, but yet after all of these shows majority of Americans are against Same-sex marriage.

Miss Representation

While doing some research, I came across this website and video trailer for a film called Miss Representation. This film exposes how American youth are being sold the idea that women and girls’ value lies in their youth, beauty and sexuality. The Miss Representation campaign seeks to empower women and girls and challenge media labels. I found this trailer and website to be quite interesting, seeing how we have been discussing media representation of women. Although this campaign doesn’t solely target African American women, I think it’s good for women of all walks of life to come together and fight against media labels. At the end of the day, African American women aren’t the only ones being misrepresented in the media.

Act Like A Man, Think Like A Woman

Everyone should be familiar either with Steve Harvey’s book, Act Like A Lady but Think Like A Man, or the movie the book is based off of, Think Like A Man. The book is a self-help guide for women to help them understand men and relationships. It gives women tips and advice as how to approach men and keep them. Some of the tips vary such as implementing a 90 day rule before having sex, not to cut back on sex, and how to deal with “mama’s boys.”

Though I think this book is entertaining and educational, there are some issues that came to mind…

1. The title. I’m not pointing my finger solely on Steve Harvey, but there is always an association with men thinking logically with their minds, while women think irrationally, emotionally with their hearts. This gives women a disadvantage as it gives the impression that men are smarter than women. In order to be the perfectly happy woman (presumably with a man), a woman must think not like a woman, but a man.

2. The need to have a self help book for women, in particularly African American, in the first place. There is always the myth that African American men are the worst as they have commitment issues and can not own up to their responsibilities as a father or husband. Therefore, this gives a negative image to African American women as they receive backlash for being loyal to “good for nothing” men and suffering with hard breaking consequences. Single mothers and poverty is two popular images associated with Black communities.

3. There is a constant stereotype that women need to cater to the needs of men before they can be ready to be in a full committed relationship. Women must adjust who they are and how they act, in order to entice and keep men interested. Almost along the lines of manipulation, women must learn how to use their main biological difference, their vagina, to attract his interest and then satisfy it. This highlights a big problem as it gives men “excuses” or “passes” for infidelity, while women learn how to accept and deal with it. Men are not held responsible for their actions, while women are left to clean up the actions. Men are allowed certain behaviors, while women are excluded. Women must always “act like a lady”, when “boys will always be boys.”

Nevertheless, I heard this movie is great. I’m adding it to my (long) list of movies to see and the book? I’m currently reading it now. So far so good, but while my opinion may be bias, I feel that women think more rationally than men, therefore, men should think like women.