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What I have=Who I am?

In today’s society everyone wants the newest electronic item, pair of shoes, and piece of clothing.  In some ways society makes it hard for people not to want the newest item because it is advertised so well; it makes you feel like you have to have it.  If an item someone has on or posses is out of date then a person is likely to say something about it.  We have all said something about what someone else has weather it was out loud or the thought just stayed in our head.  I guess if you have the latest item then you are keeping up with what everyone else is doing and has.  I know that everyone does not have the same resources and may not want the same things as other.  Being different is not a crime but I think often it is presented as just that.  The things people have do not define them, what they do in life and how they choose to use those things do.  I think people should remember this.


Masterminds, Millionaires and Moguls

Masterminds, Millionaires and Moguls, a program bought to campus by YOUniversity Drive that was sponsored by Student Affairs, The Multicultural Resource Center, and United Black Professionals.   The panel was made up of five millionaires.  Mr. Manwell Bynum is the President/CEO of Connectivity Concepts.  Dr. Masherrill Koonce is the Owner/Optometrist of Charlotte Optometric Center.  Nigel Long is the Founder/Principal/Managing Director of Trade Street Advisors, LLC.  Mimi Sabates is an Entrepreneur/Business Development Director of Legacy Talent & Entertainment.  George Forrest is the Owner/Operator of McDonald’s Corporation.  Michelle R. Horton was the Host and she is the Founder/CEO of YOUniversity Drive, LLC.  The panel was excellent and they were insightful.  There were two women on the panel which shows that women can make it in a successful career.  Mimi Sabates stated during the program that she had gone bankrupt about a year ago and she has just started over.  She said that she asked people that she knew if she could help them and do jobs for them and now she is back on her feet.  That lets people know that even if you find yourself at the bottom you can make your way up again.  Towards the end of the program Nigel Long stated that he has something called the 7 steps.  First step: Set goals. Second Step: Define a strategy for the goal/Device a plan for goal recognized game.  Third Step: Recognized game/Connect the dots (know what is new and going on in your area of study) Fourth Step: Get over yourself (know how to ask to help and take in new information) Five Step: Always focus on obtaining Financial Independence.  Six Step: Time/Hustle Hard (take advantage of time because you can’t get it back) Seven Step: Pray (I think this a very important step).


Act of giving

My sister told me once that you are supposed to do things because you won’t to do it. You have the desire to do action for another person so you do it not because you expect or want anything back in return.  I try to remember this when I go about my day.  I do things for people because I really want to and because I like helping people especially when I see they are in need.  Deep down inside I think everyone hopes that if one day they needed something that the person they helped would be there to help you.  When that person is not there it makes you rethink helping people and their intentions.  When it gets like this people should remember that someone always sees what you do regardless if you are recognized for it or you receive something back.  We get over blessing from the things we do and the blessing we give.

Dr. Anita Hill- Women and Gender Equality

Dr. Anita Hill’s forum was good; there were a lot of people there to hear her speak.  Dr. Hill started with talking about women and gender equality.  She asked that we see gender equality as equal chances but let’s believe in a world that women have the same chances as men;  a world where a women can be President, Chancellor, head of the student body…etc.  I think that we have a long way to go before a woman will be President especially an African American woman because we are oppressed by gender and racial factors.  She said we should think of decision makers being women that believe in gender equality.  This is an important statement to me, just because a woman is in power or in a position to make decisions does not mean that she will make decisions that will benefit women.  Dr. Hill said that when you think about gender equality you should personalize it.  This makes since because when people think about gender equality they just think about women in general and may not think it affects them.  When you put faces to the word women such as mom, sister, grandma it gives a person a better perspective.  Dr. Hill spoke commented on the hearing but she did not want that to be the main focus of her forum.  She stated that the process was critical to her life but the hearings did not define her.  No matter what you go through I think it will have an effect on you but it should not define you as a person.  Someone in the audience asked why she testified and where did she get the courage and her response was that she had seen first had how important the courts were.  She had wonderful colleagues, friends, and family who supported her and she knew her vision of life and who she wanted to be was bigger than the hearings.  Dr. Hill said “If we can begin by making sure that our voices are heard we will have begun to work towards something important.” It all begins with your voice in my opinion; if you don’t have a voice then people are not going to know what you stand for.  We change the word by the things we say and do.


Power is a subject that was talked about in our readings for this week.  Power is most often defined as control and domination over a person.  In Bell Hooks reading it is pointed out that power comes from within.  When white women looked for examples of power they look toward white men instead of looking at the black women who have to find the strength and energy to go on every day.  Women and especially black women have a lot of power but it is not recognized because they are not hold powerful position or dominating other people.

It takes a strong person to be able to endure domestic violence everyday and still find the strength to push on.  In Black Feminist Thought it is said that, “Many African-American women have had to exhibit independence and self-reliance to ensure their own survival and that of their loved ones.”  The book goes on to say that this image can leave black women feelings stuck in a domestic violence situation because they feel that they should be able to deal with it on their own as seen by the “independent black women.” I think everyone needs help and no one person can figure out everything on their own.  The women who “exhibit independence and self-reliance” have found (know) their power; the women who feel that they should be able to handle the situation on their own but are not able to just need help tapping into their power.

The term BITCH…

Over my spring break I hung out with my best friend and his guy friends a lot.  The word bitch was thrown around so much that I had to ask the guys why they refer to females as bitches.  One of the males told me because in his experience most of the females that he runs across are bitches and if they act like that then that’s what he is going to call them.  He did admit that all females are not bitches.  Another male told me that he did not know he had just been calling them that for so long that he is use to it.  He said he was pretty sure that females use words to disrespects them like the term “nigga” but as we all know black people use that term to refer to any black person.   I also heard that it had to do with the fact that most females are sneaky and cannot be trusted.  Some of the guys knowing that I did not like the word bitch did try to reword themselves.  I understand that females use that word also but when males throw that word around so much it does get to me.  Some people do act like the name that people refer to them as but it does not make it right.  At least I voiced my opinion and tried to get an understanding of why they use the term.

Your Edumacation

S.A.V.E (Students Advocating Vigorously for Education) held a program today called “The Evolution of Blacks in America: “Building a Stronger Community through Education and Activism” off course the focus was on Education.   The keynote speaker was Mr. Joseph Charles Jones who is a Freedom Rider and was invited on Oprah’s show to celebrate the 50th anniversary of the Freedom Riders.  There were also organizations from the computer and UNCC to speak on education.  We have all heard the saying “A mind is trouble thing to waste” and “Education is the key” but these sayings really true.  We heard from a 7th grade girl that told us that she will be the first of her family to go to college, which for many young people her age this is so true.   She wishes to be a role model for her younger siblings and the only way to really do this is to lead by example.  I thought that it was a great thing that she knew at that age that education was the only way she was going to do the things she wanted to in life.  Some of the speakers talked about the lack of choices people have; an absence of choices is what Mrs. Bell Hooks defined as oppression.  Having an education will allow you to better understand the lack of choices that you have and find a way to tackle them.   During the program a presenter said “The opposite of poverty is not wealthy, it is justice” and she asked the attendee what this meant.  One response was that poverty is a crime and that justice means equality for all, I agreed with this.  As we talked about in class there are systems in place that keep people in the position/circumstances they are in.  There are more girls that graduate from high school and that are in college than men.  Every year 2,000 students drop out of high school and they are twice as likely to live in poverty.  The program was very good and I think people take a lot from it.


Knowing Black History

I am in United Black Professionals which is an organization on campus.  Last Wednesday we had a social event where we played jeopardy.  The question where on black history and important African American people, seeing as in this month is Black History Month.  It was fun but one thing that I noticed is that a lot of us in that room did not know much about our black history including myself.  There were questions that were missed more than once by both teams.  When the question “Barack Obama is the ____ president?” came up, I heard someone say 48th and 42nd now even I knew that answer.  The last question that made my team loss because we waged all our money was “where was Martin Luther King Jr. born?”  Someone answered and said “Montgomery, Alabama”, that was wrong the answer is Atlanta, Georgia.  I would not have known the answer off the top of my head which makes me think that I do not know much about African American history.  Some people were talking and stated “we did not learn this stuff in school” the fact that you didn’t learn it in school is not an excuse and that doesn’t mean you could not learn it on your own.

Disney Movies

I am in a Global Connections class and this week we talked about women in the media.  We looked at Disney movies and examined them.  Most of the princesses in Disney movies are white and the “fairest of them all” is Snow White.  There is none too little representation of African American people in Disney movies.  In The Mermaid there is a sea creature who has a Caribbean voice but that is the only representation. When African American people are represented in movies most of the time they are animals.  In The Lion King which is set in Africa, there are animals but no people in the film.  Often this is the case where Africa is depicted as being a place where are animals are and no people. The Disney’s film The Princess and the Frog, which I have not seen but I was informed in class, the African American females spends three-fourths of the movie being a frog.  It seems as if Disney is trying to venture out and show that a princess could be Africa American but then we see that they still limit her visibility by making her an is amphibian most of the film.  This is not how I remember most of the Princess movies I have seen, in most of them the princess goes through a situation and finds her prince.  When we got out of class two of my Caucasian friends started to laugh and said “why would they do such a thing” referring to the fact that she was a frog most of the movie.  I know that they were laughing because they really wondered why and thought it was ridiculous but it make me think.

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Casual Conversations

Just something I was thinking about so I decided to post.

I feel as black woman at times we can be our biggest opponent. Often I hear all the time walking around look at her, she ________ or she think she ________ (you can fill in the blank). When you fill in the blank I am pretty sure that most of the things are negative.  I hear very few African American females say something positive about another female. I’m not saying I am above this, I think as women we all have said something about whether we knew the person or not.  Some people wonder why Caucasian and African American men talk about and degrade black women in some of the way they do.  I am not saying its right because I don’t agree with it but when you talk about a person around other people that makes them think since you talk about that person it is ok for them to do the same. I never really hear African American women uplifting each other although in certain organization in school I think the female members may uplift one another in doing task. Usually female’s especially African American females see each other as competition instead of allies.  As we read about African American women and all that they have done to get us rights and to be viewed as equals, in today’s society we still look at our own African American sisters in ways we should not. At times African American women contribute in oppressing other African American women.