Monthly Archives: April 2012

Everyone Should be a Feminist.

EVERYONE SHOULD BE A FEMINIST.

Why?

Equality for all human beings.

loVe for everyone despite race and gender.

Emphasis on EQUALITY because everyone should be entitled to the same rights and privledges.

Respecting our biological differences and understanding that it is because of our differences we are here today.

Youth, what are we teaching them, if we are disrespecting our women in the media and the private homes?

pOwer as we are stronger as a force together, rather than divided and easy to conquer.

No longer neglecting women from sectors of the society. We should be able to be involved in the political, economical, and social of our world.

Equality once again. Who can has the power to take away our God given rights to have a place in this world?

One thing this class has taught me is that we have to be advocate feminism and inspire those to embrace it. Because of the negative images surrounding the word, many people refuse to be associated with the term. This reduces the power of our force against sexist oppression as we can not only trying to convince men but women.

I think it is sad that here we are in 2012 (the year everything is suppose to “end”) and we are still fighting for equality among races and sex. I think that as the US is the current hegemony nation of the world, we should lead by example and should already have equality for all! We are suppose to be such a civilized, advance, technologically powerful, and modern society, yet we are still fighting for rights that was never suppose to be taken away in the beginning.

Independence vs dominance

In today’s society there is a lot of Independent women out there, getting multiple degrees, high paying jobs and not relying on anyone else. Why is it that some men might misinterpret this type of women as a dominating women, instead of being an independent/strong woman. Why is it that an automatic turn off for some guys, or that men might find them intimidating. A lot of men have problems with their significant other making more money then them. The man and women both chose their career path, so why do these men hold it against these women who have high paying jobs. I also agree that some women may be dominating and use their high paying jobs the authority in the relationship. But I believe their are many women out there who are in these positions that arent dominating but just independent, and dont have to rely on their counterpart at all. Personally I have come from a household where my mother made more than my father so this was introduced to me at a early age. If my wife makes more money than I do, I wouldnt have a problem with it, and if I did i would try to go back and get a better degree or climb the corporate latter to attain a higher salary than her. For the most part I dont have a problem with it, but I am only one guy, but why do other men have a problem with a women’s independence?

Twitter Beef && Reality TV

So I know you’ve all heard of the popularized twitter fight; to believe all this mess started over he said she said mess. But I believe a lot of the actions today are the result of all these reality TV shows. Now don’t get me wrong I can enjoy the drama of Bad Girls Club and Basketball Wives or Atlanta Housewives any day but I know the difference of Reality TV and REAL life. You cannot just go and fight someone and record and put it on the internet and think that it is ok. These young females need to realize that they are jeopardizing their future with all of this mess. Do they not realize that employers look at your Facebook and twitter when they consider you for hire? Just the other day I was sitting with my sister when I noticed that she was texting one of her friends. I so happened looked over and seen what they were texting about (boys of all things); I asked her who was this little girl and she pulled up the little girls Facebook now mind you this is a 10 year old girl and she is on Facebook for one and the her profile picture is too too provocative for a 10 year old. I could not believe it. The black community has to do better in putting positive images in front of these girls and show them that it is ok to go to college and get an education and it is cute to wear your clothes with your midriff and backside or breast covered. We need to show them that your brains and inner beauty is what makes you attractive not some sleazy too grown outfit and heavy makeup. I just don’t understand these girls nowadays and how they feel like its ok to fight over these social networks over nonsense and then to take a step further and violate this girl at her home. Now her life is messed up and she will never be able to fulfill her full potential because she has an record. I want these young girls to WAKE UP and see the light of day!!

Interracial couples

I have read most of what has been written by my classmates,and what their thoughts on interracial couples. Living in the south, I believe dating outside ones race is perceived as more of an abnormality than other places. Collins discussed some reasons for resentment within the African American community as women feel abandoned by men dating outside of the race. Most talk of interracial marriage concerns White females and African American males, and interracial relationships are mot often depicted in this manner. I often wondered the true reason for  Black women not being more open to interracial marriage. Collins describes resisting the temptations of men of other races as the way African American women maintain their virtue, as is vital to not be perceived as too promiscuous. The idea of White men being able to  resist sexual partners available to Black men is also stated as a factor as to why there are not more Black women/White men relationships. I have problems with this because historically White men and men in general are not very choosy about their sexual partners. Black women are also not limited to only White men, so there does not have to always be the connection to the slave master/slave relationship.  Collins argues that it is not sex, but partnership with Black women that White men avoid, thus leading Black women to appear overly available if they choose to date outside their race. The marriage market is ever shrinking, and I wonder what other reasons there are for Black women limiting their partner options because I believe there is a large difference between being available and being desperate or cheap. Interracial relationships can promote African American Feminism by expanded the discussions, to individuals in mixed relationships who would normally not care to be involved.

Why Not?

I was talking to my friend earlier and I don’t know how this actually came up, but we were talking about  how we’re young and this is the time to try new things and be excited about life.  Instead people are forever worrying about other people’s business; stressing out over things that don’t even matter.  Why not just smile at someone when you walk by instead of looking at them up and down?  Why not actually be happy for someone instead of pretending and then talking about that person behind their back.  What makes all of this worse is that its mostly women who act like this.  We as women, especially black women, should be standing together; you should know that if you have something going on in your life and you need someone to talk to, you can rely on your “sister” to have that shoulder to lean on; you should know that if you’re excited about something or have good news you can tell your “sister” and she be just as excited for you as if it was happening to her.  Life is too short to be comparing yourself to others and to always be trying to bring someone down.  Why not try to be a better you?

 

What I have=Who I am?

In today’s society everyone wants the newest electronic item, pair of shoes, and piece of clothing.  In some ways society makes it hard for people not to want the newest item because it is advertised so well; it makes you feel like you have to have it.  If an item someone has on or posses is out of date then a person is likely to say something about it.  We have all said something about what someone else has weather it was out loud or the thought just stayed in our head.  I guess if you have the latest item then you are keeping up with what everyone else is doing and has.  I know that everyone does not have the same resources and may not want the same things as other.  Being different is not a crime but I think often it is presented as just that.  The things people have do not define them, what they do in life and how they choose to use those things do.  I think people should remember this.

What Would They Think of Us?

New Generations of Black Feminists

The 19th-century black feminist movement had its roots in the abolitionist movement; it was, in fact, at a global abolitionists’ meeting that the Seneca Falls organizers got their idea for a convention. Still, despite their efforts, the central question of 19th century feminism was whether it was acceptable to promote black civil rights over women’s rights.

The 1980s were a depressing period for the American feminist movement. The Equal Rights Amendment was dead. The conservative and hyper masculine rhetoric of the Reagan years dominated national discourse. The Supreme Court began to drift incrementally to the right on important women’s rights issues. And an aging generation of predominantly white, upper-class activists largely failed to address issues impacting women of color, low-income women, and women living outside of the United States.
In 1993, feminist author Rebecca Walker–herself young, Southern, African-American, Jewish, and bisexual–coined the term “third-wave feminism” to describe a new generation of young feminists working to create a more inclusive and comprehensive movement.

It is 2012. What are the issues of the day at the forefront of black feminism? From many of our readings we see that oppression, sexism and racism are still very much prevalent. Writers speak of a ‘new racism’ that plagues us. Mass media has not represented blacks in a good light. Upon reflecting what I learned this semester about the wonderful contributions of the “original change agents”, I pondered,  What would the 19th century black women think of us? Would love to know what you think.

 

Movie Night

In going to see the movie Think like a Man it had me thinking about a lot of stuff that we talked about in class. However, the first thing  that came to mind is why during the movie it only shows black women who can not seem to get there men to act right? It shows a single mother, A woman who’s boyfriend does not want to commit to her, a woman who “gives it up to early”, and a strong corporate woman who can not seem to find a man that lives up to her standards. In the movie it shows these women desperately trying learn ways to find a man or to keep the ones they have. But it was very interesting to me that their were only two white males and one was happily married and the other one (who dated a black woman) had issues committing to her. This maybe a little left field but it made me think that this black woman who takes care of him is good enough to do his laundry but not good enough for him to commit to and also that only black people have issues when it comes to relationships and respecting one another. As for the strong black woman, it shows her lowering her standards even though she finds love, I am not sure how I feel about her having being classified as being a man herself therefore she doesn’t need one to be in a relationship with. That comment made me think of when we talked about the black woman already being liberated because she was classified as being “to strong”. Even though this movie made me question some stuff that was said all in all it was a good movie.

Know Your Worth

Throughout the week I have been confronted with situations where I can plainly see that, as African American women, we go through alot of unnecessary trials because we do not know our worth.  I believe that we are battling images created and established for us prior to birth without the knowledge of what they entail and how our lives are shaped around them; so we conform to them without realizing it.  At my job I sometimes see cases that make me want to scream out to my African American sisters, but in order to keep the job, I’m unable to speak with them frankly.  We are struggling, as a minority group, with all of the elements that we have been discussing during this course:  classism, racism, sexism, a lost identity, and unity.  Many of the disputes that I see and hear about are one Black woman against another, and it is kind of expected.   Of the cases that I am privy to, I see that there is a lack of value and self worth; I say to myself, “If she only knew that she is worth more than this”, or “she has got to know that she deserves better.”  Sadly, in most cases, they don’t.  This mindset is not relegated to courthouse drama or any particular institution, thats where it often ends, but starts in our own homes.  I write this blog because it saddens me, and we have to do a better job of uplifting each other.  Giving compliments and kind words to each other instead of constant judgment.  We so badly need it in our society today because the odds are stacked against us and many of us do not understand that we are so much more than the pictures other people have painted of us.

Feminism as it applies to me

Before coming to college I don’t think I would have ever called myself a feminist.  My opinion of feminism was skewed by the negative representations of what it means to be a feminist by the media.  Changing my minor to women’s studies was one of the best decisions I have ever made.  Upon taking these courses I was enlightened and I believe that these courses also helped me find my true calling.  I can now confidently say that I advocate feminism and that I am a feminist.  Being an african american feminist deals with a lot more than simply equal rights for women.  Being an african american feminist means that I am a strong woman whose thoughts are shaped by ending oppression in all forms for all people.  Being an african american feminist means that I can uplift black men and show young children that we are not defined by the negative stereotypes of us in the media, but that we are defined by the knowledge and strength that allows us to fight for a better tomorrow.  Being an african american feminist means that I can give a voice to those who struggle to find theirs.  Being an African-American feminist means that I can continue to fight the negative images and perceptions of my brothers and sisters by being educated and aware.  Being an african american feminist means that I can be proud of my sexuality without trying to hide who I truly am.  For these reasons and many more I am so thankful that the women who came before me made it possible for me to not only become an educated black woman, but a black woman who is comfortable in her own skin.  Learning more about african american feminism and its ideals has overall helped me to become a better person and for that I am greatly humbled and appreciative.