Breaking a Family Curse of being “Complacent”
Why must us as African-American women learn and be ok with being “complacent” in bounding situations?” Earlier in the week, my mother and I had a conversation on the phone about my plans once I graduate from school in May. I recently applied for Teach for America and was denied placement, so of course my plan B was graduate school for my M.Ed in School Counseling. After telling her my aspirations and my plans on becoming a secondary education counselor, she immediately cut me off. Her response on my plans for graduate school was very odd to me. She responded by telling me, “You must love debt. You’re going to learn that it’s not about the title of your degree. You just need to get a job and work your way up within that company.”
Now my mother is well-educated. She is a graduated of Winston-Salem State University with a Political Science degree and her aspirations was to become a lawyer. After she graduated from WSSU, she began to work and decided that she rather make money instead canceling her dreams of becoming a Public Interest Lawyer.
Now being that this is my 5th year in school, I understand my mother has sacrificed a lot in order for me to get a decent education from a great university, financially speaking. Now my issue with that statement that my mother made is that is exactly what “society” expects from, not only a woman but one of color. A great professor from my past university, Larry Little, Esq., said during one of his lectures, “Many higher level institutions teach us how to work for other people. What are you going to do differently once you depart the university to become the master of your fate and not become enslaved in blue-collar America?” I took that bit of knowledge that he dropped and measured it up to that statement my mother said to me. I plan on raising the bar, striving until my name is accompanied by Dr. , and never becoming “socially complacent.”